A Thank You Is All You Need
My girlfriends and I noticed recently that we have a pretty bad habit. Whenever we give each other a compliment our response is to push it away.
We wondered if we were the only ones to do this. But after a quick google search on our phones we were amazed to learn that almost all women have trouble accepting a compliment.
But why do women feel so awkward hearing something good about themselves?
In an article for Inc.com, Amy Morin, author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do, draws on recent research to dissect the science behind why some people cringe when they're complimented. If our self-image doesn't line up with the words we hear about ourselves, we feel uncomfortable, writes Morin. When we see ourselves as "not good enough," we have trouble trusting and accepting the positive feedback of others.
Reading this rang true to us. As Moms we constantly feel like we aren't doing enough or trying hard enough. As women we hold ourselves up to such a high standard it's difficult to ever feel like a compliment meets our personal requirements.
So we’ve decided from now on if someone compliments us our response is going to be “Thank You.” No explanation, no excuses no, “oh well I try”.
Thank you is such an easy thing to say. After all it’s what we teach our children to say whenever they receive praise. So why shouldn't we lead by example.
I’ve been doing this for about a week and it’s amazing how different I feel after accepting a compliment. Each time I accept I feel good about myself and a boost of confidence.
In addition to that our close friendships with each other have started becoming even closer simply because we feel more appreciated by each other than ever before!
My recommendation....give it a try yourself! You'll be amazed at how easy it is to make the switch and how great you feel each time you accept!