Wedding Planning: Who To Invite
While we were planning our wedding our Wedding Coordinator told us she wouldn't be able to assist us for a month. She had another wedding one month away with 500 guests and neither the bride, groom nor either of their parents knew who some of the invited guests were. It sounded pretty out of control.
Early on Marcelo and I decided we wanted a small wedding. His idea of a small wedding 20 people, mine 100 guests. We compromised on 50 and were happy with this number. Before ordering the invites we showed our families the list to see if there was anyone we had left out.
By the time our parents finished adding THEIR friends, co-workers, neighbors, and distant relatives we had a guest list of close to 200 people! This was not what we had envisioned.
First, that many guests took up our entire budget. Second, we didn't want to spend our entire wedding receiving guests. We wanted to eat, dance, talk, have fun. The more guests the more time we would have to spend making the rounds.
Next followed a difficult discussion. We were sorry but our parents lists were going to have to be cut down drastically. Marcelo & I gave them the same guideline we had used for our own list. If you haven't spoken to the person for a year or more or if you don't spend time with them socially (i.e. go out for dinner, movies, coffee) then they have to come off of the list.
Using those guidelines our list came down to 80 invited guests! HUGE improvement!
On top of that when we all looked at the final list together they all agreed these were the people we wanted to spend this special day with.
On our wedding day 64 guests attended. Marcelo and I got to dance, laugh, sit down and talk. Even enjoy the amazing meal we had planned. It was perfect. AND we knew everyone who was there.